For When You are Comparing on Social Media | Perfectly Imperfect

Sep 26, 2021
4 min read

This is just a friendly reminder that no one has it all together. Yes social media makes us seem like life is PERFECT and always HAPPY. Yet, we all know, behind those smiling selfies are imperfect moments.

Sometimes it feels as if it’s just us. “Wow she looks amazing, confident, happy, thriving, etc.. and I don’t feel that way.” Social media‘s downfall is how it show you a very edited, highlighted, happy version of people, of us. You only see what people want you to see though. It can be a very misconstrued version of anyone, making them seem as something far from reality. Or maybe just not the full truth. But what we see, can make us feel like outsiders when it looks very different from our reality.

It can make you feel isolated, ashamed, depressed, sad, unfulfilled.

Guess what? That girl is probably going through it in her relationship, in her job, in her school, in her family. You never know what people are going through.

It is important to note that so you don’t feel like the only one. Yes we have happy, beautiful moments and that is great. But life isn’t always sunshine, beach trips, and shopping trips.

Life is R E A L. For you, for me, for the influencers, the fashionistas, the actors, the models. We all have different situations, but can very easily feel the same things.

Stress. Worry. Anxiety. Depression. Sadness. Anger. Loneliness.

And I’m just tired of always pretending as if its not okay to not be okay all the time. And I’m tired of us all posting as if everything is perfect when it never truly is.

If life isn’t 100% perfect for you right now, guess what? Mine isn’t either. And that is OKAY friend!

That is just life.

Let’s share more often of our messy moments and change perfectly filtered social medias to just real day to day you’s and me’s. I rarely ever have it all together. While I usually post my baby smiling, there a many times he is crying and screaming and it overwhelms me to the point where I feel almost stuck and lost. While I usually post my super hot hubby smiling, there are many times we get annoyed of eachother or have very poor communication and things aren’t well. While I post a selfie on a day my hair and make up look nice, the day before I probably looked a little homeless or like a teenage boy haha. What I’m trying to say is…. It’s not always perfect and that‘s perfectly fine.

So let me tell you what I do when I do need a pick-me-up, a smile, something to keep my chuggin along…

I LOVE to be with my family. Spending time with my mom, sisters, brother, and dad just always makes me feel at home and grounded. They are the people that are always there for me. My rocks. Spend time with the person or people you feel are your rock. The people you can be your crazy weird self around and they love you for it.
Stay off social media! It is easier not to compare when you aren’t looking at what is going on in everyone’s lives.
A good ol’ comedy movie. I love anything Adam Sandler or Cameron Diaz. Seriously, Adam Sandler movies just make my heart warm and happy and ready for a new day.
A good devotional on the Bible App. If you just look up the feelings you are dealing with, different devotionals pop up that can guide you to healing and your answers. I promise you, if you seek God, He will show up. And He will provide.
A walk outdoors. I swear we are connected to nature or something; sometimes it can feel more like home than home. Something about a breeze, the sky, the flowers make my problems seem small and the world seem so beautiful and wonderful. Call me cheesy but it feels like anything is possible when looking at how nature works so naturally yet so strategically.
Reminding myself of my identity and who I strive to be. It is so important. I AM God’s princess. & He’s got my back like no other. This helps those worries diminish. And I strive to be like Jesus: loving, kind, forgiving, brave, strong, etc. So while I am never perfect, I always try to mirror the image of perfection which is Jesus. This reminds me that I am beyond blessed, there is a time for everything, God has a plan for me which isn’t the same as everyones but it is as important and as special.

I just want you to know that, girl, we all struggle in our own ways. Don’t feel alone. And don’t isolate yourself! Talk to someone. Or even use our dms to just vent, even let me know if you don’t want a response, you just wanted to get it off your chest.

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