6 Best Marriage Advice Tips that Will Help Your Relationship Grow

When I first got presented with the topic “marriage advice” I thought cool, ok great! This will be easy. But then as I started to brainstorm the idea I realized it wasn’t as easy as I initially had thought. I say this in the most humble way possible but …… my marriage has been a walk in the park.

But before I get into the details about my perfect husband, let me give you some back story. I dated the same guy pretty much all through high school, figured we’d get married you know, like all the high school sweethearts in the movies. But clearly that didn’t happen.

When I was young I was so selfish, self-serving, and my main focus was me. Rightfully so though. I mean come on, when you’re a teenager your biggest goal is to find yourself and your passions. So moving on, after high school when the relationship ended, I stayed casually seeing people but never investing myself into a relationship long enough to

1. Build a relationship

and

2. To allow myself to get hurt.

I was extremely guarded, played hard to get, and always tried to act like nothing bothered me when we probably all know by now I’m the most emotional person on IG there is 😂

I am a DEEP feeler. All my emotions are amplified and I wear my heart on my sleeve. Fast forward to when I met my husband. He was this handsome guy at my work who all the girls liked so no way am I gonna let this hot guy take me out. I wasn’t in the mood for games and I surely wasn’t in the mood to get played. I finally cracked and we went on a date. ONE DATE and 2 weeks later he told his best friend he knew he was going to marry me. So naturally when I heard that my first instinct was to run for the hills. But something in me told me to stop, stay, explore these new feelings.

Ladies, I don’t have to tell you this but I’m going to anyways. OUR GUT IS NEVER WRONG. And my gut told me to stay. And that was the best decision of my life. So now here we are, just over 2 years of marriage with a house, baby, and puppy. I swear when I type that out it looks like the beginning of a hallmark movie. 😆 But this is my life. And before you can have a beautiful marriage, you yourself need to be in the right mental state to do so.

Before I chose my husband, I first chose myself. Before I loved my husband, I first loved me. Before I got to know my husband, I got to know myself. You cannot have a thriving marriage when you go into it broken and not knowing who you are. The reason my marriage is so successful is because my husband and I went into it as whole beings. We knew what we wanted, what we lacked, and who we were. We are constantly evolving and changing together and it’s the most magical bond. That’s not to say that you have to have it all together because honey let me tell you, if that’s what you’re waiting for you will be waiting forever. You will never be perfect, or make enough money, or even feel ready. You just have to trust your gut.

I prayed fiercely for a man just like Michael. Actually, my husband exceeded my prayers. God saw what I wanted and He multiplied it. That’s the God I serve!! He sees the desires of my heart and he provides. For the newly weds, here are my BEST pieces of advice I can give you:

1. Let it go: You know those petty fights that start because you’re either hungry or tired or stressed or all of the above? Just let it go. It’s not worth it and and neither of you need that type of life sucking, energy draining attitude in your home or marriage. If you’re old enough to get married, be mature enough to apologize. It will save you so much anger and tears.

2. Savor the beginning: My husband and I are still in the beginning stages, but I remember when we first got married and I thought I needed to get everything sorted out right away. Like a house, or all the bills and the merging of the account and blah blah blah. Just stop, take a breath and savor it. Like always comes us fast and I promise you all those things will come. Embrace all the butterflies and all the newness.

3. If something bothers you, say it: Before moving in with my husband I had never lived with anyone besides my parents. So I went from having everything my way to now sharing a space with a dirty boy. 😂 Although he caught on quick, It’s because I said something. It’s important to create an environment where you’re both yourselves but also comfortable.

4. Boundaries: Just because I’m married now doesn’t mean I don’t need alone time. In the beginning I will admit we were attached at the hip for nearly a year, but I still needed my space and alone time to decompress. I need to be alone just as much as my husband does and it’s ok to be apart! Boundaries are a form of self-love. ♥️

5. Don’t talk about your marriage: Alright, when I say don’t talk about your marriage I mean don’t go talking to everyone about your issues whenever a speed bump arises. Your marriage is between you and your man. Find someone you trust, love and respect to ask for advice. Don’t go to your single friend for advice about your marriage. It doesn’t work like that sis. Find a good, God-fearing woman who has been married for a few years and has some wisdom under her belt. You want women who will pray for you and your marriage. We live in a generation where there’s literally a 50% success rate in marriages. That’s horrible. Satan sneaks in by destroying families. Keep your prayers up and your heart guarded and be careful who you talk to about your problems and relationship.

6. Lastly, pray together. Prayer is powerful. Praying with your spouse is another level. Not only does it bond you to each other but it binds you to the Lord. The Bible says "For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them." Matthew 18:20

Pray, love, laugh, apologize, joke, forgive, give grace, be kind, remain faithful, be loyal, and be open. These are ingredients that will cook up a beautiful marriage.

Until next time. Xx