For The Tired, Stressed, Overwhelmed Mom

This one is for the mom who is struggling. The mom who is tired, has dirty hair, has a brand new body and is feeling like anything but a woman. This post is for the wife who is exhausted. The wife who is tired of cooking and cleaning. This post is for the women who think they have lost themselves. This one is for you.

A quote I will never forget reading is, 'No one even mentioned it. In 9 whole months, not one person said, “You're about to meet someone entirely new. And it's not your baby. It's going to be you.”

Wow. Read that again. And again. Until you can actually digest that. It is the truest fact that when we leave that hospital we are completely changed woman. Some days we feel like we’ve changed for the worse and that we’re not fully equipped to take on this role. Others days we feel so strong and empowered as if this is what our whole life’s purpose was.

Motherhood is full of waves. I’ve learned in my heart and half of motherhood that the times I felt most like a failure, that’s when I was gripping onto an idea of what kind of mother I should be rather than being the mother that I was destined to be.

When I was clinging on to perfection I was unable to hold onto joy, and happiness, and patience, and love.

Understand this: when you have tunnel vision on perfectionism you lose sight of all the already perfectly imperfect blessings in your life.

My life changed when my mind changed.

Just how I talk to my son with love and respect, i started talking to myself the same way.

I wanted to be an example of what a woman who loves and respects herself looks like. To the women who feel like you’re failing or lacking anything: don’t give up. Don’t doubt yourself. Remind yourself that every single day you continue to show up.

You do the best you can, even when you’re exhausted. You rock your crying baby even when you’re exhausted. You feed your baby even when you’re hungry. You hold them in your arms when they cry even though you may be crying yourself. You are a WARRIOR. I’ve realized since becoming a mother how strong and capable I truly am and I’m so proud of myself.

I know it is easy to feel broken, afraid, lonely, while also being madly in love, and being consumed with happiness and joy about this new life you just brought into the world. I started to look at my new body and role as a new start.

When things break, we get to choose how to rebuild them. If we tear down a house we have the option to rebuild it the exact same way it was OR we can build it better, bigger, and stronger. So when i was completely broken down i decided to rebuild myself better. AND YOU CAN TOO.

Think of yourself as a life long project that you get to work on. Everyday is full of new opportunities to become better than who you were yesterday, or a week ago, or even a month ago. The best party about adulthood is CHOICES.

Women: we create life, nurture relationships, turn houses into homes, groceries into meals, and set backs into triumphs. We can do anything and it’s time we step into our power and realize how exceptional and capable we truly are.

You are beautiful just the way you are. You have everything inside of you to be successful, to be the best mother, the best wife, and the best version of you. You don’t have to shrink yourself down to fit into a box of what society thinks motherhood is. It’s not one size fits all and we all parent different, but we all have one thing in common: LOVE. ♥️

The love of a mother is unbeatable, unmatched, and non-refundable.

You have gotten through 100% of your worst days and you are still here and you are still standing.

Think back to a time when you thought there was no way you would recover or be happy or feel like yourself again. Now look at you, you’re here. You’re still standing. Now, you may not feel like yourself yet but that’s the key word: YET.

You will find yourself again and she’s going to be better than she was before. Choose how you want to rebuild yourself and remind yourself daily of who you are and what you’ve already done. You get to decide how you want your life to go. You are in charge of your life and your happiness. Don’t ever put your happiness in someone else’s hands, it isn’t theirs to carry.

Take back your own happiness, do things that make you excited and nervous. Take chances, take risks, go on adventures. You get one life. Yes you are a mother, but you’re also you. Let’s start finding out just who “you” is.

Here’s how we start:

Answer these questions & then take action;

1. What makes me happy?

2. What do I want to be known for?

3. When do I feel like a good mom?

4. When do I feel energized?

5. If I had a whole day to myself what would I do?

6. What things drain my energy?

7. What brings me anxiety?

8. When do I feel at peace ?

9. When was the last time I did something for me?

10. Why not me ?

Answer these, asses your answers and then act accordingly. Make this life AMAZING. Your children will follow in your footsteps of being fearless, hardworking, and all around amazing. Just. Like. You!!

Written by Hannah Grenz