A Message to the Lonely & Feeling Isolated

Just last week I was crying to my husband.

I’m constantly surrounded by people but I was feeling so lonely. I don’t have friends my age who are in the same phase of life as me. All my friends are graduated from college or nearly there, dating, living care-free, and only worrying about themselves. Then here I am looking after a home, taking care of a toddler, dog, and sustaining a healthy marriage. Not to mention finishing up my career online all while juggling the things I just listed. I felt sad. I wanted to talk to someone about what I was going through but couldn’t think of one so he person that has been in my shoes.

So here’s where the loneliness kicked in. Realizing no one understood what I was feeling so I tried my best to explain it to my husband, and he tried his best to understand but still, it wasn’t the same.

So of course, to aid in my loneliness I sought after God and his word. I realized that in the Bible, before God was about to use someone in a massive way, he would seclude them. He would isolate them from the rest of the world so that he could have their full attention. And i felt like this is exactly what God was going to me.

While I was surrounded by people I was so lonely and my soul was craving more. More interaction, more depth, more substance. The only one who can give me, and you, more is Him. He sees our heart and the desires that lie there. He wants us to have the desires of our heart. It says it in the Bible! That’s how much our God loves us.

In the midst of my lonely spell I realized that God completely halted my life because I was so busy. Running errands, cleaning the house, being on Instagram, working out, and everything else in between. He didn’t have my full undivided attention. So he did what he had to do to get it. And he did.

Are you in a season of isolation? Or feeling as if no one in the world understands how you feel? If so, remember that God was tempter JUST LIKE US when he clothes himself in flesh and came down to save us. To be the perfect sacrifice.

He took everything from around me. Had me lose friends, lose connections, and lose the feeling of intimacy in terms of friendship. When all of that was gone I had no choice but to lean on him. Which is what i should have been doing in the beginning I just needed a reminder.

They say that you turn into the 5 people you spend the most time with. Who are you spending time with? Are these people you admire or are you just friends with them out of obligation? If you wouldn’t settle for a spouse, why would you settle for friends? We are living in the final days and we need friends who will pray for us, encourage us, gently guide us and tell us when we are in the wrong.

We don’t have time for bad relationships in our lives. Spend time with the Lord today and i promise you he will fill every gap, every hole, every ache inside your body. Give him the time that he needs in your life to build that friendship with him. Like my grandma Lou used to say, “ All you have to do is fall in love with Jesus.”

So simple, right? But so life changing. Fall in love with Jesus and your entire life with settle into place. This season of loneliness is simply a season. Ride it through and remember that God always has a plan for the pain.

Hannah Grenz