9 Real & Meaningful Tips on Dealing with Relationships after Pregnancy

We all know that baby’s change everything; that goes without saying. But one thing I wasn’t aware of is how my relationships would change after becoming a mother.

To be honest I lost some friends, my marriage lacked romance due to sleep deprivation and our newest member we added to our bedroom. It was all so much and I never ever expected it. Being the first one of my friends to have a baby, none of my friends understood what I was going through. I felt extremely secluded and left out. My friendships suffered in the beginning.

As time moved forward and I adjusted into my new role as a mother, I began focusing on myself. And then following that my relationships got better. I gave my friends more grace for not understanding my situation and i gave myself more grace as well. And as for my marriage, i began trying to bring back the spark and romance.

Here are a few things that really helped my husband and I feel like husband and wife again and not just sleep deprived roommates:

1. Spending quality time together when the baby went to sleep and asking each other about ones day. Genuinely listening and responding.

2. Trying to shower together every night. It sounds silly and such a small act but we had some of the best conversations and laughs in the shower at the end of the day.

3. Sitting down together to eat dinner.

4. Staying open with each other about our feelings.

5. DATE NIGHT. Nothing fancy, actually is was more relaxed than anything. Simply watching a movie baby free was more than enough. The alone time together was much needed.

As far as my friendships go:

1. I gave them the benefit of the doubt. I know they didn’t mean to hurt my feelings by not reaching out, they simply just didn’t know.

2. Expressing my feelings. Every relationship thrives when honesty is involved.

3. I made time to have girls nights. It felt so good to get back into society. Trust me you need your friends.

4. When i went out i didn’t talk about my baby the whole time. As much as we all love our kids, sometimes it’s nice to take a small break and just be an adult.

Our lives are forever changed (in the best way possible) when we become parents. Our routine changes, our relationships change and WE change. It’s a beautiful transition.

We were meant to grow.

So if you find your relationships struggling, try opening the line of communication and being honest with yourself and others. It will make all the difference. And also, don’t forget to date your spouse. ♥️

Written by Hannah Grenz